Marriage is a beautiful sacred. Since my infant days I have always daydreamed walking on the isle stepping steps forward with my dad who beholds most handsome heart. I know not who my husband would be. All I know and do is pray, and pens hundred of wishes and plans for the awaiting day on my diary. As my mom sets exemplary of how blessed it is to be a wife and a mother, inspiring through her depths of love, sacrifices, encouragements, joy in our little achievements and building bonds in all good times and little waves of temptations, made me to learn, work and build myself for the ‘day’ of the gift of life.
When I say gift of life, I fear now it disheartens me. A ceremony which was meant to be of happiness, of celebrations, of receiving blessings for the togetherness forever, is now doomed of bringing destructions, unfulfillments and unpleasant moments amongst two families and kins. For we the people have only been brainwashed with the shifts of society. We are blinded towards emotions but to material our visions clear. I bet now a marriage is only about outlook to please the eyes.
Most people I see attains happy ceremonial only as a spectator to see how the bride and the groom dresses, how’s the hall’s decorated, how’s food presented, how big the cake’s been made, and what not. I know not all study.
My heart experience pain. I pray. I, as though only teenage, half-adult I voice to you dear special ones, invitees amongst 2 million people of the world. THIS IS SO WRONG. Please understand that you are not invited to fill the chairs. Your invitation cards never states, ‘please come and fill the chairs in the holy ceremony of our children’. You are invited with a purpose. Purpose to receive your blessings and for you to witness the happy communal of the bonding that you may be blessed too and that you may go and testify the joy in being a part of others happiness.
I would say to those preparing for the ceremony, do not set your day to please people. To please one person requires hard task. For you to please hundreds and thousands of people will drive you mad and bankrupt. At the end it’s never about how you pleased people but how pleasing you appeared in the eyes of God and your family. To the invitees, please do not attain weddings for the sake of marking your attendance. You are doing them nothing but only adding another kgs to your body.
I pray, as happy couples invites your presence may your presence add to their happiness and may you with your heart wish them good for their new start.
You know, the world can be a better place if only we learn to accept ourself, accept others and love more.
It is very important to love for love is the greatest commandment. Our God itself is love and we are created in his likeness.. Hence we all have love in us.
But then I see lack of love or rather absence of love in mankind. People often chooses whom to love and what to love. It is always a sad story, a sage of those who is exempted of receiving love in accord to society’s division.
Towards ‘Toy Factory’ is what once we girls rebelled against. For it is always women who mostly becomes a victim to this state of affairs. And so this why maybe most matured grown men around us are still the bachelors. Even now (jock).
Society expects so much from we women. She ought to do that, she ought not do that, should behave this way, should not that,… The division is always into clear two cut. The good and bad. And there men go like buzzing bees in search of good women. I would say to you my brothers, IT’S RUBBISH.
As Tony Smith fairly stated through Margret,
“I don’t think that people can be divided into the good and bad women as though there were two separate races or creations. What are called the good women may have terrible things in them. Mad moods of recklessness, assertions, jealousy, sin. Bad women as are termed, may have in them sorrow, repentance, pity, sacrifice – love”.
And I urge to all you brothers, the bachelors who called, ‘the men of the world’, also to you sisters if you amongst in search. STOP YOUR BUZZ. Stop searching for good but dig the good in bad. No gold is gold unless it is smithed and worked upon.
If only you give, if only you care, if only you love, you can make imperfect perfect for you. The world is full of imperfect people. Have someone whom your soul loves and with whom your soul finds its home. Believe in work, believe in prayer, believe in miracles. Believe that love is real and believe that love can change. At the end it’s always love that matters.